Relationships
How you love is something you learned, which means it’s something you can understand. These guides translate attachment research, communication science, and the psychology of boundaries and breakups into language you can actually use.
Breakups and Healing
The Stages of Grief After a Breakup: What’s Actually True
The five stages were never about breakups, or even about grief. Here is what the research actually says happens, and why you are not doing this wrong.
Communication and Conflict
Why We Fight About the Same Thing Over and Over
69% of relationship conflicts are never solvable. The damage is not caused by the problem, it is caused by trying to solve it. What to do instead.
Communication and Conflict
Communicating in a Long-Distance Relationship
Long-distance couples are more satisfied than close ones, until they close the distance. The research on why, and what actually protects you.
Communication and Conflict
How to Bring Up a Problem Without Starting a Fight
Gottman predicted the outcome of arguments 96% of the time from the first three minutes. What he heard, and the formula for opening a hard conversation.
Communication and Conflict
The Silent Treatment vs. Stonewalling: What’s Really Happening
They look identical. One is a nervous system drowning; the other is a door being held shut. Four tests that tell you which one you are actually in.
Communication and Conflict
How to Repair After a Fight
All couples fight. What separates the ones who last is repair. The research-backed 5-step process, and the one thing you must do before you start.
Communication and Conflict
Lack of Communication in a Relationship: Causes and Fixes
It is almost never a skills problem. Why we need to communicate better keeps failing, what is actually underneath the silence, and what fixes it.
Avoidant Attachment
Can Avoidant Attachment Change?
Yes, and avoidance declines with age. But most spontaneous change does not stick, and no partner patience can do it for them. What actually works.